Most people begin dating when they are in their teens. These relationships can be fun, exciting and a great way to learn more about yourself and your values. But dating can also be a source of worry and confusion.
If you are dating someone, or thinking about starting to date, here are some questions you might be asking:
There are lots of things to think about when you start dating someone.
What do you want in a partner?
Figuring out what you want in a partner can be tricky. There are some things you may be sure about like:
- you want someone who loves sports as much as you do
- someone of the same religious beliefs
- someone who has a great sense of humour
and some things you aren't so sure about like:
- can you date someone with different tastes in music than you?
- can you date someone who doesn't want to go to college or university?
While it's important to find someone who you are compatible with, remember that you don't need to make any life-long commitments right now � you have lots of time to find the "right" person. If you relax and have fun, you'll enjoy getting to know lots of different people and you'll learn a lot about yourself and your values/needs too.
It can be lonely and frustrating when you are ready to be in a relationship but can't seem to meet the right person.
It is important to keep socializing and doing the things you like to do. You can also try meeting new people:
- through friends and family
- through clubs, teams and social events
- at school
- at parties
What if all your friends are dating and you're still single?
It is ok to be single.
Sometimes it's hard for other people to understand that you're happy being on your own right now � enjoying other areas of your life until the "right" person comes along � or that you're just not ready to date yet. Try not to let other people's expectations pressure you.
If you're really shy or nervous about dating, why not talk to someone you trust like a friend, parent or Kids Help Phone counsellor?
